Response Vs Reaction
At a restaurant, a cockroach suddenly flew from
somewhere and sat on a lady.
She started screaming out of fear.
With a panic stricken face and trembling voice, she
started jumping, with both her hands desperately
trying to get rid of the cockroach.
Her reaction was contagious, as everyone in her
group also got panicky.

The lady finally managed to push the cockroach
away but ... it landed on another lady in the group.
Now, it was the turn of the other lady in the group
to continue the drama.
The waiter rushed forward to their rescue. In the
relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the
The waiter stood firm, composed himself
and observed the behavior of the cockroach on his
When he was confident enough, he grabbed it with
his fingers and threw it out of the restaurant.
Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement,
the antenna of my mind picked up a few thoughts
and started wondering, was the cockroach
responsible for their histrionic behavior?
If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed?
He handled it near to perfection, without any
It is not the cockroach, but the inability of the
ladies to handle the disturbance
caused by the cockroach that disturbed the ladies.
I realized that, it is not the shouting of my father or
my boss or my wife that disturbs me, but it's my
inability to handle the disturbances caused by their
shouting that disturbs me.
It's not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs
me, but my inability to handle the disturbance
caused by the traffic jam that disturbs me.
More than the problem, it's my reaction to the
problem that creates chaos in my life.
Lessons learnt from the story:
I understood, I should not react in life. I should
always respond.
The women reacted, whereas the waiter
responded. Reactions are always instinctive
whereas responses are always well thought of, just
and right to save a situation from going out of
hand, to avoid cracks in relationship,
to avoid taking decisions in anger, anxiety, stress or