How To Improve Your Self-Esteem Advanced Practical Way

Aloha, Amigo!

How has the day been over there? Hope you are holding up just fine (If so, thanks be to God. Lol! That was how we used to write our informal letter back in the days.). Anyway, in all things we give thanks. My day? Oh, thought you wouldn’t ask! My day has been surprisingly great, thank you.

In the past week, I have had a lot instances when my beliefs have been shaken. However, I stand taller than ever today. One big thing you get to enjoy when your self-esteem is up-to-date. I'm feeling good, Mate!

We have been talking about Self-Esteem in the last few posts. I have even decided that, after we have done justice to the series, I would employ much other leverage to make sure this reaches as much audiences possible. Trust me; I am optimistic about reaching more people and touching more lives with this series.

You should do your part by sharing this post and others in the series. Heck, why not just share the heck out of the whole blog altogether? I'm thanking you in advance. You can thank me later. You will see. Let us return to the topic, though.

Following the first two steps mentioned in the first post, you would find below some other ways to improve your self-esteem. These are actually more complicated than the previous ones, but that is just that – it may be complicated but it is not impossible.

This is where you need to open your mind as, compared to the last post, this is a bigger deal. Let us do this, amigo. I know we can!

[Have you read the last post containing the previous keys? They are the basics and you should enjoy them. In case you haven’t read the previous keys, click here now.]

3. REMEMBER

Now is the time to remember at least three (3) times you had felt really great in the recent past. It could be that time when you did something great and people were praising you. Or maybe that time you did something you considered completely normal, just for others to see it and exclaim it is totally wonderful.

That time you did something others had been trying to do for some time, but had not really been making headway. That time you proposed an idea, and it was just what everyone had been waiting for – That messianic, problem-solving key, which was entirely your idea – Your idea, your own idea!

You know that feeling that follows such experience. It does not matter the setting or the situation. Just the fact that you have been a source of awesomeness everyone had been waiting for has this FantaFab way of making you feel like a Boss; Like you rule the world. That is the Mantra of this blog, after all. Striking the Balance, Ruling the world….

Have you been able to remember some of them? I am talking about those really FantaFab feeling-great moments. How many of those moments do you have ready now? Remember, I said we need at least three (3) of them. We are about to make use of them. Are you ready? I know I am!

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4. VISUALIZE

Now that you could remember those moments (By now, I believe you should have been overwhelmed by a mind-full of those), let us put them to use. Take the most recent, freshest strongest one of the moments and do the following.

• Try to recall how it happened, viewing it with your eyes and dwelling in your body. Let me explain that. What the whole gobbledygook is about, in essence, is that you should picture the event and scene just the way you viewed it that day.

• Note how you started the act, whatever it is. Let us use a powerful speech as an example. So, you delivered that very edutaining speech, and everyone was looking at you as if they want to eat you up. Imagine that feeling.

So, you ended whatever the speech was about and got a standing ovation. Wow! That feeling is an incredible one, right? Hey wait, don’t give up if you do not have a powerful speech to remember.

Just remember any thing you did that gained approval and acceptance from people. It could even be a joke that left everyone’s ribs cracking. Just remember and visualize.

Applying The Pressure

• Apply the Pressure Method; You know, the one where you apply pressure to one part of you body and make that part associate the pressure with the pleasure from the feel-good factor.

The pressure part is important because there are some times in life when we just have to push ourselves; that time when our person needs the reminder – the Reassurance.

5. WITNESS

Now, this is very similar to visualizing – just not exactly the same. And yes, this is more Advanced. You may find it more tasking but I can assure you that the reward is well worth the whole work. No pain, no Gain, right?

Onward Ho!

Follow the following steps, (which are, not surprisingly, similar to the Visualize key above):

• Try to recall how it happened: Yeah, just like the last time – but this time you view it, not through your eyes, but through the eyes of an imaginary third party. Does that sound like another set of Jargon? Not again!

Anyway, what I am saying is that, imagine there is someone there with you. Someone other than you, who are the first person, and those praising and appreciating you, these people being the second person.

Now, imagine you just happened to be there at that time. And you were witnessing YOURSELF giving that powerful speech and the others as they were enjoying you. Do you still find this tough? Do not worry; you would understand now:

Imagine your ghost coming out of your body as you recall that great moment (You need to employ your mind power here. It is important.). Imagine your ghost left your body and went a few meters away from that place. No, you didn’t die joor. You were still performing the whole acrobatics and those people were still enjoying you.

• Note how you started the act, whatever it is. Let us use a powerful speech as an example. So, you delivered that very edutaining speech, and everyone was looking at you as if they want to eat you up. Imagine that feeling.

So, you ended whatever the speech was about and got a standing ovation. Now, your ghost watches on as the event unfolds and sees how you act. The ghost (Or call it Spirit, if that makes you more comfortable and less wired.) takes note of all those things and observed how you felt as people appreciated what you did.

Take your time on this step until you see yourself very clearly. That is why I advised you use a mirror in the last post, so that you could become very familiar with how you look, plus your structure and physique. Trust me, this exercise is the bomb!

• Apply the Pressure Method; You know, the one where you apply pressure to one part of you body and make that part associate the pressure with the pleasure from the feel-good factor. Apply it very well this time and make sure your body connects the pressure with the pleasure. Ahem! *Clears Throat*

N.B: You take one event at a time to run the three keys above. That is, you Remember one recent event ‘A’, Visualize the event ‘A’, and Witness that event ‘A’. After following that sequence to perfection, you can then move to event ‘B’, and on and on (World without end, Amen.)

That is about that, folks! Easy, isn’t it? Well, maybe a little complex at a stage. However, as you can see, it is not impossible.

It is fun, actually. By the time you follow that sequence twice, give or take one, you would have mastered the act. In fact you can get to a stage where you do not ever need the pressure. And Finally…

... The stage where you might not need this process.

Oh, What a Life!

Aku Cinta Kamu, Amigo!

Aloha!

In Your Court: What Practical Process do you go through to strengthen your self-esteem? How effective is it? If you have tried the steps above, how has it been? Feel free to share. In case you haven’t, why not go back to the post, practice the keys, and comment the initial experience. The World is waiting…

If there is a question you have too, whatever it is, drop it in the comment box. Ama get back to you!