Aloha,
Amigos!
Yes, yes, I know. It has been two days
straight. I am sorry. I truly am. I should however notify you that three things
had been holding me up. The first was actually some personal stuff I had to
attend to. Thank God it has been settled. More
on that soon…
The other thing that had been holding me
was actually the networks that we rely upon as our ISP (Internet Service Provider). These guys really should write a big
apology letter to all of us, seriously. If you don’t live around here, Nigeria, you
probably might not understand. Let me drop that for now…
Now to the third: This Blog. Yes, FantaFab had been one other culprit for
the two-days French leave. Why, I had been buried in some very tasty resources
that have been bombarding me with so much useful information, which in turn has
been opening my eyes to Fabulous ideas that could better help me serve you
better.
And I thought it was three- actually there
is one more: The Valentine’s Day Giveaway. I had been so busy trying to meet up
with promises. It isn’t easy, honestly. But it truly has been so rewarding.
IF
YOU READ THE WHOLE STORY ABOVE…
You should have noticed the following:
Those stories might be true (In fact, they are). You may also opine that the four points are plausible ones. Well, maybe. However, it does not change the fact that they are excuses. Plausible excuses, granted. But excuses they are, all the same.
Those stories might be true (In fact, they are). You may also opine that the four points are plausible ones. Well, maybe. However, it does not change the fact that they are excuses. Plausible excuses, granted. But excuses they are, all the same.
I could have ended the whole thing with a
simple “sorry.” Many have dragged the unnecessary just because they were not
ready to say that simple word in time. All those puff-puff ego. Big-head person
not ready to say “sorry” to the other party… Sometimes, even THAT other party
could as well be one hell of a big-head. Eeyah…
But then, if you still value the
relationship, or whatever you share (Everything is actually based. So whatever
you share is still a form of relationship between you and that other party.),
you should be ready to correct the errors from your own end of the rope. The
life is a war, sure. Just not against your fellow humans. So, why not say sorry?
Let
me tell you a short story.
Story,
story… story… (LOL, I bet you can recall those days
of story telling. Let us proceed.)
I respect Tracy Chapman a lot. I came to
know her one dark rainy late evening. We were searching for bike, I and my
friend, Victor, to take us to our respective streets. We usually board the same
bike. I alight first. His place was farther. We would then, endure the walk
home in the rain.
This particular night, I just heard that
song… Baby Can I Hold You Tonight… I
was glued, listening to that soulful song. But not for long- I moved for where
the song was coming from; a speaker. And the shop was not there. So, I traced
the wire behind the speaker to the very shop where such a touching song is being
played. Such was how moved I was!
As I paid for the CD, I never knew the
impact it would later have. It would later touch many more lives. I would later
sing this song before a crowd of friends, acquaintances, and strangers. I would
get standing ovations, hugs, and handshakes because of it. And with its
influence, I would find Love again…
The song goes thus,
“Sorry…
Is
all that you can’t say.
Years
gone by and still…
Words
don’t come easily…
Like sorry,
like sorry…”
Let me leave it at that. That song is a
very loaded song, if you listen to that song, you would understand what I mean.
Just google “Tracy Chapman Baby can I
hold you tonight”. That song shows how many hesitate and miss
opportunities. And complicate issues. That is just Life is. People getting it
wrong and blaming Life. Giving Excuses, excuses that would not change anything.
There are so many things we all could gain
from saying sorry. I know some would say, “Well, there are some things to lose,
too.” Well, probably once in a while. But when you balance the pros and the
cons. You would notice one thing. You stand to gain more than you could ever
lose.
Now,
to the gains.
By saying sorry;
- We save ourselves a lot of stress: Seriously, not saying sorry just saps you of beneficial life juice. Imagine that, and start saying sorry.
- We do our part in preserving Relationships: Nothing kills Relationships as much as Stubbornness does. And that is what not-saying-sorry is. Stark stubbornness.
- We lead Happier Lives: Honestly, would you not be happier when you do not have a bitter memory about relationships gone sour, which keeps haunting you day and night? I would not answer that for you.This time, let us both grab a cup of coffee and ask google, lol.
- We are more productive: Some deals are bigger than others. But if that sorry you are avoiding is not affecting your productivity, it is probably because you are not being observant (Not being observant is already a bad thing, just so you know.). The bigger the deal, the more noticeable your loss of productivity. You can not be dragged by something and still expect to move forward. Even if you manage to do, it would be slow and painful. Truth is a bitter pill. Swallow it.\
- We grow: No wonder the children grow more rapidly than adults. We grow and feel “un-sorrier”. Consequently, we grow less. You just look at the world around you. Look! And you would realise that “I no dey lie, lol!”
There was a time my boss was displeased
with a trend in office. I was just a fresh IT student. I was not aware of any
gravity of the act, or the consequence, whatsoever. When, I was suddenly
involved and wanted to talk, the CEO, my boss, said, “I do not want any
excuse.”
My reply was simple.
“None offered, sir.”
I saved myself a lot of headaches. I would
have won the argument. Gosh, I am the King of Debates, lol. But I would not
have helped my boss saved face. I would not have gained his approval, either.
All I would get is an empty victory over a failure.
Remember that…
“An
Empty Victory Over Failure.”
If there is one thing we all should
consider doing, it is saying “sorry” as at the time due. Let us all save
ourselves the stress of what stubbornness could cause. Let us all say, “SORRY!”
P.S: In the beginning of this article, I mentioned a personal matter
that I had to attend to. It was my first excuse. And I said I would come back
to it. The personal matter was that, I dumped my pride and said sorry to
someone very dear to me. Not because the person was right, but because I
handled the situation wrongly. Trust me, if I had not said it, I probably would
not have been writing this very article.
So,
say “SORRY”.
Aku
Cinta Kamu, Amigos
Aloha!
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