BETTER TO FALL
IN LOVE AND GET HURT THAN NOT FALL IN LOVE AT ALL? I DON’T THINK SO.
That was what
she titled the post last year 2013, in which she bared her thought on that one
issue the whole world is still puzzled about. You guessed it; Love. Duh, who doesn’t
know? The only thing that seems greatly talked about after that is… Money, Lol!
Back to the
writer:
She wrote about
whether it was worth it to try out something even though it might fail. The way
she put it, she could not see the
sense in loving what would later hurt you. Why love when you would eventually
get hurt, right? The post was a long while back, yet the same issue resounds
everywhere.
Aloha, Amigo!
How are you
doing? How has life been treating you? Lol, life has been quite playful these days.
Why, by what life tests you with sometimes, you would be doing yourself too
much harm not to laugh and enjoy the moment.
If you could
not, it might be how you esteem yourself. What is the solution? Follow these basic practices, and graduate to the advanced ones here. By the time you are
through, you should be feeling sooo High (Do not worry; I have been ‘accused’
of being high a lot lately. And how do I feel about it? I feel FantaFab!)
But I digress;
Just like the
example in the first paragraph, many the world round have found themselves
asking if they should ever fall in love when loving usually comes with the risk
of hurting. I know some people would start assuming the love I am mentioning
here is the kind you have for your ‘Honey-Baby’, *Chuckling*.
That would not
be completely off point, but that love is just one of many. Like the writer in
the first paragraph, who was already married and with children, the
love-and-hurt inspiration did not come from a divorce. No, far from it!
Rather, our dear
lady fell in love with a house they wanted to buy. She started blogging about
it excitedly, filling her readers in with the details and progress. Imagine the
feeling when she found out eventually that they couldn’t foot the bills that
follow such investments, after all. Broken heart….
The bottom line is
that, no matter what you fall in love with (human or thing; living or abstract)
– if such fails you, you would most likely hurt. And that is perfectly normal.
Now the question
is
Should You stop Loving so as to Avoid getting Hurt?
Hell, no! Life
must be lived. You loved something, and devoted more time to it than it truly
deserved. Yet, it failed. So what? That is the mentality I want us all to
adopt.
“Yeah, So What?”
The moment you
learn letting go and enjoying life to the fullest, you would see how happier
your life could get, even after getting hurt again. You know why? Because you
realise there are lessons to learn and things to improve.
Your newly
learnt lessons would help you avoid initially made mistakes in the future. And
if you make another wrong move and it fails? Learn and move on again! Life has
never been easier.
I have heard a
lot of “you are heartless” kind of remarks. But the reality is, I have a heart
which would not break. If the impact is so hard as to cause a fracture, I would
take a deep breath, switch on some good music, and move right on!
Come to think of
it, whatever failed you actually did one of this two things
- It has added to you
- It has taken away from you
1.
IT HAS ADDED TO YOU
If it has added
to you, maybe that is all it is meant to be. An addition phase in a greater
scheme of things. Trust me, there are so many contributors into this life I
live, and that includes you. I live my life based on everything in and out of
me that I come in contact with.
If I knew from
the start that I would later be hurt by some people or by something, I would have avoided them in the first place,
right? Wrong. I have opened up to many people I know would hurt me eventually.
Why? Because they are just one phase in a Greater Scheme of Things. If I had
run from them, I would have missed that phase of theirs which would benefit me,
eventually.
These kinds of
people feel guilty today without knowing I don’t carry their weights along. I
am actually living my life!
2.
IT HAS TAKEN AWAY FROM YOU
If that is the
case, well, there is no point in continuing anyway, or is there? You might not
have noticed sooner, but subtraction is actually a bigger hurt. Or maybe you
knew but were hoping for a miraculous turnaround.
Life has its
plans though, and things don’t always work out as planned. And God just saved
you from a lot of hurts in the future.
It is my life.
No one owns it, but me. That is, God gave me. Nothing keeps me back. Nothing
drags me into the past. I look into the past just to grab lessons for my
future. No one rules this life of mine. Everybody is a guest. You might become
a VIP, but a guest you still are, nevertheless.
Life is sweet
for those who could live it. If you can’t, contact me, and let me help you.
Life has never been easier.
Live, Laugh, Learn, Love!
TAKEAWAY: You own your
life and should live it for God and for yourself. Live for other people, in
such a way that benefits the humanity. But when you start ignoring your life,
avoiding love and walking alone, that is screwed up.
OVER TO YOU: What do you
think should be done when you are facing love dilemma? Go for it or Ignore it?
Or try another style. Please, do comment below.
